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Southern Illinois

do any of you guys have to deal with the things like i have to with my wife,like why did you put a tent in your pumpkin patch,,ok how much money did you spend today wilma said she seen the fed ex truck in the yard today,why do you pay so much money for them seed you could have spent it on your son,every time i go any where people ask me about your stupid pumpkin patch,dont piss me off i will go out there and bust that big pumpkin that you care about more than me,you go to town for a few minutes come back and the wife says the ups truck was here with your junk for your pumpkin patch, well where is it i told him you did not want it so then you have to go run down the ups truck,kids i hid some bags of candy out in your dads pumpkin patch go find it,them stupid vines are taking over the kid play area you better move them,see that jug of warrior that you paid 200.00 dollars i will pour it all over the ground if you dont take me to get some chinnes food,you have to tell the neighbors to page you if you see the wife in the pumpkin patch,you pass a truck on the road and it has a load of pumpkin,you get home did you sell any pumpkins while i was gone,she says no was i suppose to,,your watching the weather channel and she turn it to watch the world turns,you buy a new rear tine tiller but you have to keep it at the neighbors house and act like you had to borrow it every time you use it,when i went to work this mourning henry ask me why you were out in your pumpkin patch at 1 am with what it looked like a indian suit on dancing in the rain,you need to turn that water off,you should not waste the water on them stupid pumpkins,you love those damn pumpkins so much you can sleep in your tent tonight.

8/21/2002 11:34:57 AM

Western WA

it dont sound good, it dont sound good..........*sigh*

8/21/2002 11:41:45 AM

Grants Pass, Oregon

Sorry to hear about your troubles with the misses Heavyhitter. Come here to Oregon and we can grow these Giants together. lol

8/21/2002 12:03:35 PM

In the shade - PDX, OR

HH - I’m laughing at your post. I know that it is not supposed to be funny, but it is just striking me that way. In one way or another I think we all have similar issues with our mates. You know sometimes they just don’t understand what the big deal is or how important it is to us.

For the most part it comes down to the time, and money spent on the hobby. (any hobby at that)
Earlier in the season I was thanking my wife for allowing me to spend so much time in the patch. We have a baby now so time is really crucial and demands are high. She knew how important this was to me and gave me some really good time in the patch.
For some reason it is really easy to become obsessed with this hobby. Anyone know why?
We all probably have similar stories to share….

Bottom line it is like anything else in life – try to find a good balance.

You might have to let her know that she is important to you, and the kids, house, pumpkins etc. Let her know how much fun and enjoyment you get out of growing BIG pumpkins. She'll come around.

Best of Luck and grow ‘em BIG!        -Ceis

8/21/2002 12:18:02 PM

Long Island, NY

I can sympathize,

My wife watches every penny I spend.

The Wife: "$10.00 for a tape measurer!"
Me: " Yes I know, but this is a special one. See the weights are right on it and it's really big too..."

In the end I just tell her she's absolutly right.(Sometimes I really feel whipped) But I still have all my pumpkin stuff and thats what counts.

I think some wives need a hobby beside watching and commenting on everything we do. I did say "some" wives.
I bet if you took a prize in a weigh-off the wife would have no problem spending the prize money.

Good luck
Steve

8/21/2002 12:41:27 PM

South Hill, Virginia

I just tell my wife that if I'm in the pumpkin patch she at least knows where I am. I could give it up and just go out drinking with my friends. All the money I would save by not growing pumpkins could help pay for the strippers.

I try to be a cheap as possible with my pumpkin spending because I am always giving her the money sermon.

8/21/2002 1:06:45 PM

Stony Plain, Alberta (near Edmonton)

I'm a batchelor, so money is no object. But I'm still on a low budget.

ahhhhhh....the joys of being a pumpkin grower!!!

8/21/2002 1:30:24 PM

Webster, NY

I love my wife more then ever after 24 years. But sometimes I get very similar messages. But in the end she says, "of all the things he could be doing, he's spending his time at home, in the garden. He could be out doing much worse".

I love that lady!

8/21/2002 1:50:45 PM

Western Pa.

heavyhitter,

You're wife don't know how good she has it, and you can tell her I told you so! (You're not supposed to tell her about all the "costs!")

Yes dear, I'll be right there!

8/21/2002 2:29:35 PM

Edmonton, Canada

LMAO, quietly!!!

8/21/2002 2:41:45 PM

North Ga

In my home I always get the last word!!! "Whatever you say Dear"

8/21/2002 2:48:12 PM

Yreka, CA

My advice to you (not that you asked for it) is to challenger her to a pumpkin-growing contest. We women are very competative. Tell her that someone told you that women are better pumpkin-growers than men are, but that you told him that he was wrong. Tell her that, even using all of your knowledge and equiptment, she couldn't grow a bigger one, or a larger number, or whattever. Maybe, if you sell the things, challenge her to see who can make more money at it. Have a "His" and "Hers" commercial patch come Halloween time. Who knows? It might work.

Patience

BTW - I have to hide my receipts too, so it's not just wives!

8/21/2002 3:14:00 PM

North Ga

Whenever my wife gets onto me I just start crying. Telling her that she doesn't understand. Works every time!!! LOL!!!

8/21/2002 4:02:55 PM

Sloughhouse, CA

0h, I just told Mike he could not spend all of Labor Day weekend Abalone Diving because he has to help load the pumpkin Sat. night . The weigh off for the State Fair is Sun. Pumpkin Day. Anyway he doesn't ask how much money I spend of this hobby. Of course buying electronic equipment is his hobby, computers and GPS equipment.

8/21/2002 4:07:39 PM

Southern Illinois

i think u losdr
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8/21/2002 4:17:45 PM

Sask, Canada

This might seem harsh but if thepvz's idea (which I think is great) doesn't work kick her to the curb.

Pumpkins is like a cold beer which is better than a nagin wife.

You know where they are at all times and if you feel like going to talk to them they are always there if you don't, do they say any thing?... No (Except for Pappy's pumpkins they are always talking) As well if ya want to go rap your arms around it go for it, they like to be given affection, any time. Plus they don't mind when you tell them they are putting on alot of weight on their bottom end, try doing that with your wife.

I put it to my wife like that, if she doesn't like it there's the door...

By the way it is spelled Chinese not chinnes and if you don't believe me about my wife just ask her but ya will probably have to wait till she gets back from a week in Calgary, She just had to go show her best friend the 67 ford mustang I bought her as a token of my love...

TTYL
Ernie
Giant Veggies

8/21/2002 6:27:32 PM

Paradise Mountain, New York

I FEEL SORRY FOR ALL THE GUYS WHO HAVE A WIFE WHO NEVER SUPPORTS THEM. lET ALONE A NAGIN WIFE. MY WIFE IS A LADY AND A SWEET HEART. SHE NEVER BITCHES ABOUT MY PUMPKIN PATCH. SHE NEVER SAYS A WORD ABOUT WHAT I SEND ON IT EITHER. SHE COMES DOWN TO THE PATCH EVER NOW AND THEN AND LOOKS AT THE PUMPKINS. TODAY SHE LOOKED AND SAID, " OH MY GOD, THEM THINGS ARE HUGE." THEN SHEASKED SOME QUESTION ABOUT HOW THEY WHERE DOING AND WHAT I THOUGHT THEY WOULD WEIGH AROUND OCTOBER 1ST. THEN SHE SAID SHE HAD TO GO BACK UP TO THE HOUSE. SHE TURNED AROUND AND FLASHED ME. SHE SAID, i KNOW YOU STILL LOVE ME MORE THAN YOUR PUMPKINS. I SAID "HELL YA." SO YOU SEE, EVERYONE DOESN'T HAVE IT THAT BAD

8/21/2002 7:42:19 PM

Yreka, CA

Let me understand this Brat. Your wife, who is a sweet heart, flashed you in your pumpkin patch, and you let her walk back up to the house? Hmmmmmmm.... I don't know. You might want to rethink that if it ever happens again. LOL!
Patience

8/21/2002 8:20:59 PM

canal winchester ohio

My wife has NEVER given me grief over the pumpkin patches,other gardens,money, hanging out at the gym all day when I used to compete, staying out late with my friends when I used to play in pick up bands ( I play anything with strings on it). Next year will be 20 years together & I can honestly say I can count the fights we've had on 1 hand without using the thumb. That's not bad for a overbearing arrogant asshole who likes to avoid contact with people at all cost :)

8/21/2002 8:32:42 PM

Paradise Mountain, New York

The Puz, this is a pumpkin site and I wouldn't dare say what took place after she flashed me. All I can say is she is a good hearted woman and she doesn't tell me what I can and can't do. She is excited that where going to Altoona for the Pumpkin weight off in October. Meaning she wants to go. Since we have been married, we don't own or tell each other what we can and can't do. Where just a couple who loves to be with each other and family is very important

8/21/2002 9:24:23 PM

Yreka, CA

Not "puz", PVZ. (Patience Van Zandt) Well, it is nice to hear that there are indeed some excellent marriages out there. It confirms my girlish faith in the perfect romance! Sometimes people find their true other half. Congratulations! Patience

8/21/2002 9:48:49 PM

virginia

Heavyhitter,i feel sorry for you man. Tell her here's a quarter, call someone who cares....Greg

8/21/2002 10:02:45 PM

Garden State Pumpkins

I gotta admit the Elephant Dung wasn't the smartest move I made this year but my wife has been pretty forgiving on the rest of the things. Removing a few branches ended up with a sixteen ton bulldozer leveling and grading the yard...I have to see what the compost heap does but hey just this morning she said I had two females on I didn't notice! She's a keeper! Went for a roto-tiller too! Now if i could only grow a pumpkin!!! LOL

8/21/2002 10:17:24 PM

Midway City, California

All you Pumpkin Growers that are having wife problems take my advice and sees what happens.

1 Go out to your patch and get about 8 male flowers
2. Wash out all the bugs from the flowers
3. Place flowers in a nice Vases
4 give them to wife
5 Say I LOVE YOU.

8/21/2002 11:22:15 PM

Indiana

You guys all need to turn back time to before you were tied down...... like me....LOL Being a single 20 year old has it's advantages :-) It also has some obvious disadvantages.

Tom Beachy

My pickup line lately has been...
I'll show you my big pumpkins if you show me your big melons......

Wonder why that doesnt work?? Any [email protected] :-)

8/22/2002 12:29:06 AM

Knopp, Germany

the love-struck, love-sick, and forlorn....i love this site

8/22/2002 1:29:16 AM

South Hill, Virginia

TomMan,

Grow some long gourds next year. Then you can say....

8/22/2002 8:13:04 AM

Deer Park, WI

I have yet to hear my wife complain about my pumpkins, of course i have only been married for 5 days. Time will tell.

8/22/2002 8:47:22 AM

Indiana

Hey, wasnt aware Joe, Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! One of the German guys ought to send you a case of beer for a wedding present

Svrichb....I have some long gourds out already. They are about 3 weeks old, and 70 inches long. Is that good? I heard they only grow for 4 weeks.

Tom Beachy

8/22/2002 9:47:46 AM

South Hill, Virginia

I sounds good to me but this is the first year I've grown them to. Mine have slowed down since they hit 6 feet. I've never heard the four week thing so maybe that explains it. Will they dry on the vines or should I go ahead and cut them down?

Try telling that to the ladies..."My long gourd is 70 inches long...want to see it?" :) I've said that so many times to my wife that she doesn't even acknowledge it anymore. I just love that "Beavis and Butthead" type humor.

8/22/2002 10:10:07 AM

Sask, Canada

Water:

I did just that and took them to her work, she laughed her A#$ off and her co-workers had a good one too.

Over all my wife is 95% supportive, and is now in the habit of checking the pumpkin before she goes to work and when she gets home, I think next year I'll offer her some space and see if she can't grow a biggin but if she doesn't I'll at least suggest if she's going to check the pumpkin she do some weed'in when she's there. LOL

8/22/2002 10:13:47 AM

Webster, NY

Joze, that's indeed a great picture of you and your bride that you posted. Congrats once more!

8/22/2002 2:23:32 PM

Knopp, Germany

TomMan, good thing I'm still an American, even if I live in Germany....LOL..seriously, Jose, you want a good dark german beer, what about a sweet hefe weizen? Your wish is my command....owen

8/22/2002 3:50:11 PM

North Ga

Hey Owen I'm thinking about getting a divorce, how bout a case of that dark beer for me!!!! LOL!!!

8/22/2002 4:12:11 PM

Yreka, CA

Hey, no one stuffed money down my bodice at MY wedding! LOL! Joze, you two are darling! Congratulations! May you live to romp together in many a pumpkin patch! Cheers! Patience

8/22/2002 5:46:30 PM

South Hill, Virginia

Hey Pappy...if that's all it takes to get a free case of beer then count me in too!

8/22/2002 6:02:35 PM

Liverpool , England

Yo,
Hey we've been together for 27 years, never bitches about the pumpkins and always asks."how the babies doing?". We have 5 kids, so no pollination problems there. The kids are always clean and fed...house spotless...clothes washed and dried and ironed..and she found time to be an ex-UK bodybuilding champion..hey what a girl.What am I bid? Nothing less than 723..or a 940..or a 845 please.

alun...in a very sunny Liverpool

8/22/2002 7:36:46 PM

North Ga

I'll give you 5 537 Hildebrands' Alun!!! LOL!!!

8/22/2002 8:23:24 PM

North Ga

Plus I'll throw in my ol'lady!!! LOL

8/22/2002 9:18:36 PM

North Ga

and three sons

8/22/2002 9:19:27 PM

North Ga

And a grandson!!

8/22/2002 9:19:53 PM

Garden State Pumpkins

Awfully quiet across the pond! I think ya got him thinking Pappy! LOL

8/22/2002 9:42:16 PM

Yreka, CA

Heck, if she's that great, I'LL try to come up with a good trade for her! I have always said that I could use a good wife. My husband refrains from comment, but I can see him thinking "Yeah, me too...." LOL Patience (No domestic goddess here, I'm afraid.)

8/23/2002 12:02:55 AM

Knopp, Germany

Pappy, Svrichb...you get the beer, i get 20 yards of rabbit turds, sounds like a fair trade to me...wadda ya say? LMAO

8/23/2002 6:35:48 AM

North Ga

Ok owen you pay shipping on turds, I'll pay shipping on brewskies. LOL!!!

8/23/2002 7:13:00 AM

Knopp, Germany

Ouch!!! LOL!!!

8/23/2002 7:23:36 AM

Liverpool , England

Yo Brian,
5 x 537's hey?...3 sons and a grandson...hmmm. What your old lady look like? Dont wanna rush into these things blind you know. Lemme sleep on it....lol


Alun

8/23/2002 7:37:32 PM

Midway City, California

Veggie, I hope you got alot of Hugs and Kisses, Bet the girls in the office went home and told their husbands what a great guy you are. Water

8/23/2002 8:39:46 PM

Midway City, California

Hi Heavyhitter -- Having nothing better to do I tallied up all the responses to your posting. Here are the results

1) Have to Deal with wife 5
2) Have a Tolarent wife 5
3) Have a Helpfull Wife 3
4) Feel Sorry for you 6
5) Advice on what you should do 4
6) Not revelant to your subject 21

8/23/2002 8:48:36 PM

canal winchester ohio

(6- Not revelant to your subject 21)
That's about the norm isn't it???

8/23/2002 9:17:17 PM

Western Pa.

1st posting in a while with 50 responses! Are we onto something here?

8/24/2002 1:40:16 AM

Myrtle Creek, Oregon

Man now that took awhile to reed.
As far as wife goes? at first she was mad that I made her get the bubble packs and stamps and mail them then she was mad about all the firtilizer I was buying, then she was mad about all the yard I tilled up and all the manure I threw around. But then everything I did to the patch I did to her garden and now she aint so mad.
We have more veggies than we ever have had and she has a cabage thats bigger than the mouth of a 5 gallon buket.
Lately she has been the one tiptoeing in the patch to get all of the measurements on the pumpkins and is as excited as I am when we get larger numbers on each fruit.
I help her with the canning and the storage of the veggies.
When we go to the local brewhause she is always willing to tell everyone how much everything grew and what we have done to get them there,
In fact they were getting tired of hearing about it until we started to bring stuff in and giveing it away and of course everything we take in there disapears within minutes.
Our friends no longer go to the front door when they come over they go to the garden, 9 times out of 10 thats were we are anyway.
So in a way our love of growing has made our love for each other grow at the same time.
This winter could be a bitch, I dont know if we will be able to stand each other being cooped up in the house watchin foot ball. LOL!
H-K-J <;-)

8/24/2002 9:15:09 AM

Cologne / Germany

H-J-K, I really liked to read your comment because it´s what you need to do - sharing it! My wife loves to grow things in our garden, but she was upset about me sometimes spending so much time for two pumpkin plants. Right now, first question in the evening "how much lbs today?". Like her, everyone in the neighbourhood does. Try to involve, to share and to show success (or bad luck), and it must be some uptown snob to ask you about better things to spend your time and money on. Don´t be a misfit with your hobby, don´t forget about other important things (like wedding day...), and it should be alright.

8/24/2002 10:28:26 AM

Anna,il

For all you guys who have nothing better to do then complain about your wives remember this.Your wife has alot to put up with ajob,kids,house work, trying to be a good wife. So next time she isnt in a good mood. Give her a break. If you guys would think about every thing you do during the day and every thing she does during the day . You would hopefully understand why she is so craby. Instead of walking away from her.Try listening to her next time.

8/24/2002 8:05:32 PM

Anna,il

And for heavyhitter grow up.

8/24/2002 8:06:33 PM

North Ga

I am the stay at home complainer. I feel like I can bitch as much as possible as much as I want. I like what I do and I respect my woman for what she does. Been married almost 25 years now and Gail doesn't expect me to be anyone else but me and I don't shape her into what I want her to be. Maybe you should look inside your circle seedless. Just my 2 cents.

8/24/2002 9:20:42 PM

North Ga

For seedless Get a seed!!

8/24/2002 9:50:58 PM

Sask, Canada

Yep I agree with Pappy, Seedless is way off the mark here.
I own and run two businesses and am pretty much at home all day as I run my offices out of the house that way I can stay with the kids. I have great staff and this allows me free time to take care of the kids, house, running around paying bills, shopping (groceries) and yes keeping the house clean. My wife works a full time job out of the house and I think our arrangement works pretty good.

My only problem is when she starts complaining about the little things or the way I have done something, what I say is if she knows what she wants done and how to do it then do it herself and as far as the kids are concerned I'm a father and I parent different than her, live with it...

So thinking about what I do and what she does when she starts bitch'in I don't walk away from her, I run...

TTYL
Ernie
Giant Veggies

8/25/2002 11:12:01 AM

virginia

I agree with you pappy,tell it like it is......Greg

8/25/2002 12:32:11 PM

Anna,il

i was meaning my statement for all the guys who have nothing better to do then say mean things about their wives. If u help out by staying home I think that is great. I havent met many men who would do that. But like i said I really think that is great. I think a marrige is made up of two people not one.Their arent many guys around here that would stay at home with the kids. I think what gaint veggies does is wounderful.

8/25/2002 4:32:21 PM

Liverpool , England

Yo seedless,
Don't see anybody complaining about their wives or saying mean things..if anything its the wives who are complaining..and not many at that. I let mine do as she wishes and she leaves me alone.Its worked for 27 years so far. Hey Brian..could you make that 6 x 537's.


Alun

8/25/2002 8:27:12 PM

Garden State Pumpkins

LmAO...Chuck

8/25/2002 9:33:23 PM

Garden State Pumpkins

Hey Pappy where's the other half of the Dynamic duo! Vacation? Now there's a lot of chirping from over the pond! Go ALUN!

8/25/2002 9:37:06 PM